OK Just out there for the world to see I suck!?!?!?

First off this situation I ran into tonight has me at a total loss.

One of my son's friends(15) is a child(also 15) who has not had the best up bringing. He lives with his Dad and we(me and the dad) are kinda friends. The kid and I seem to get along real well, we joke around and he feels comfortable enough to escape to my house a lot. His dad has been out of work going on 6 months and in the 2 yrs we have known them they have lived with family and then Dad got a job and moved into the court we live in as I recommended him to the landlord.

The situation is that I made a comment on the child's outfit which, even though matched in color, didn't go well together. I said that I thought maybe that he might need a woman's touch in the shopping world. "Maybe I need to go and help you out with matching clothes someday"

Now, I'm having to deal with an angry father who called me on my cell phone (after stewing for 2 hrs) as I was driving home to cuss me out on my earlier comment. I hung up on him after saying, "Good-bye, ?????", and the following is a letter I wrote to him to make sure I try to make amends before he turns this real ugly.

"?????,


First off I’m sorry for hanging up on you last night, but there was no way I was going to drive and listen to you cussing me out at the same time.



Secondly, I am sorry if I hurt you or ????? Jr.’s Feelings in any way. I was only joking, obviously I was wrong and I will admit it and apologize to you and him. I guess sometimes I think of him as a second son and we joke around.



Third, please try to remember we are friends and I hope we can talk about anything. I am more than willing to talk to you calmly about this or anything. I don’t think I have ever yelled and cussed you out for the things you have said to me that I thought were inappropriate. I would appreciate the same courtesy.



I hope that you have calmed down enough to be able to get through this situation with me without yelling and cussing me out, but if you need to make sure I have a lot of Beer in me before hand.



Again I apologize that I did something wrong in the way I talked to ????? it was not my intention to hurt either of you.



In Friendship,

My name signed"



I don't know what others might do in this situation, but this guy has a bad temper( I kept the kid while he was being held in jail less than 3 weeks ago) and I've always tried to stay out of their business. I do think I crossed the line but I would have been more agreeable to talk to him if he hadn't come at me cussing me out. This is an issue I've dealt with before, my ex would start to cuss me out then turn to hitting me. I've learned to just get out of the situation as calmly as possible. Even if I have to be rude.



So, I'm asking all you great people to give me your unbiased opinion. What would you have done, I treat this kid just like my own and "T" has even said that even though I get on him about his choice of clothes sometimes that after he changes, he sees I do have a valid point.





Thanks Guys



Jerbear